I love you. How often do we say that and what does it mean? We tend to think of it as an emotion which indeed it is. However, is it more than that?. If a parent says to their child I love you, is that only emotion. What if the child has been disobedient and the parent is angry? Does anger trump love? Perish the thought. A parent may be angry or disappointed, but parents love is not conditional on a child’s obedience. A parent loves their child in all circumstances even to being a sacrificial love. It is emotional, but it is also a decision to love and not let anything else get in the way.
What about adopted children? I know a couple who had a daughter. When she asked where she came from, they told her she was chosen even though she was their natural daughter. They said this because they planned to adopt. That meant choosing another child and if she were chosen then there would be no distinction between her and the adopted child. They would have the same love.
They adopted a boy, and he had emotional problems. He needed a lot of perseverance and patience and these are expressions of love.
A close relative of mine told me that when people plan a family, they think that children will fit around their lifestyle. The reality however s that lifestyles change around the children. In so doing, the parent shows love to the child.
I have known people whose children have grown up, yet they still worry about them and will do anything to help if they are in difficulty. Parents love does not stop when the child becomes an adult. It changes and continues. To the day they die a parent loves their child.
When people have their own children, it is common to look back to childhood and reflect on the things the parents did to love and protect them, and they in turn seek to do the same. In this respect, love is a circle. It is ongoing. Never-ending. In the film, there is a song called the circle of life. There is a lot of truth in that.